Dream On, But Don’t Count on Your Dreams Coming True

Grand Canyon2I once heard it said that a dream is something that would make all the pain go away if it came true. And I got to thinking, what is it called if that doesn’t work? As one who has many dreams—most of which did not come true—I wonder if it really matters if dreams come true.

Maybe what matters more is that the pain goes away, no matter how that happens. Sometimes something unexpected comes along, and the pain goes away for a while. It may not even be something you ever dreamed of. Even the greatest dreams, if realized, doesn’t always take pain away. At least not forever. Pain, being part of life, inevitably comes back.

People who live privileged lives in the sense that they experience less pain than others have dreams. And those dreams probably keep these folks a step ahead of the kind of gut-wrenching pain that can make you wonder what the point of life even is.

What do you dream of?

There are things we’re all supposed to want: love, friendship, work we feel good about, and a sense of purpose are some examples. If we don’t find those things, we find ways to distract ourselves—sometimes very destructive ways like drinking or drugs or getting into other kinds of trouble. Sometimes better ways, like spirituality, yoga, meditation, the pursuit clean living.

It may be a stroke of luck that causes us to find our way to the “better” list. Maybe in some of those cases, it turns out that we’re lucky we didn’t find the love we sought or that our dream to become something didn’t come true.

So dream on, but don’t count on your dreams coming true. But don’t give up on dreams, either. They exist for a reason. But they also change.

The Greatest Dream of All

Maybe the best idea is to always have a dream but not hold on to any one dream so tightly that you don’t notice another more important one you can replace it with. For example, maybe letting go of the dream of finding true allows you to discover opportunities to become true love by serving others. Being love is, after all, the highest and most fulfilling pursuit.

Once you are united to your source—that is, once you know you are love —accomplishing or getting this thing or that thing may not become less important.

What is important is to keep trying to accomplish something, whatever it is. And keep trying to become something greater than what you are now.

That Locker Combination Dream: Listen and It Will Open

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I had that locker combination dream again recently. It was the one where you’re in school and you can’t get your locker open. You’ve probably had this dream in some form. This wasn’t the first time for me I’ve had the locker combination dream dozens of times, always awakening before I figure out how to open that door.

In the recent dream, I was once again in school. It was the first day of class, but oddly, my fellow students and I were well into adulthood. In fact, some were former teachers and administrators in the schools of my youth who are well past retirement in real life.

My Locker Combination Dream

In the dream, I was at first in my room in the home I grew up in trying to decide what to wear. Would I be comfortable in short sleeves or would it be chilly in school? While I was making what seemed like an important decision, I also realized I was late. If I didn’t get going, I wouldn’t have to time to get a cup of coffee to bring to class (I guess a reference to my college and graduate school days when I wouldn’t think of trying to get through class without coffee)!

Looking for the Locker

I got to school and discovered that not only did I not know my locker combination, but I wasn’t even sure where my locker was. “Not this again,” I thought (in the dream). I had carefully noted the location and the combination. How could I not know where to go or how to open the locker this time?

I was about to give up. I sat cross-legged on the floor with my head in my hands and cried. I’d been in this here so many times, and I just didn’t have the energy or desire to try to figure it out anymore.

After a few minutes, though, I realized that couldn’t continue to sit there on the floor. I forced myself up and look around, though doubted I’d find what I was looking for. I was on the third floor of the building, searching frantically for the locker. Still no luck.

Then a calm voice in my head reminded me, “It’s upstairs.” It wasn’t dramatic. It was just a quiet voice within. I followed some of the older people up one flight of stairs. Sure enough, my locker was there there on the top floor of the building. “I think it’s near the science rooms,” the voice in my head suggested.

I found my locker (my name was on it). It was the first in its row, a few doors down from the science wing. I noted that this locker was bigger and nicer than the gray, steel lockers of earlier versions of the locker combination dream (and real life).

But there was still the problem of opening it; I still didn’t know the combination.

Listen for the Clicks

“Just listen for it,” the voice said. “These lockers are designed to be used by thousands of intelligent people. Just listen and you’ll be able to hear the combination.”

Trusting that voice, I slowly turned the knob clockwise until I heard a very subtle click; then I turned it counterclockwise, then clockwise again. It opened with the combination “19-3-12.” I began repeating the numbers to myself as I searched for a pen the combination down.

My inner voice spoke up again. “You won’t forget this. It’s 1932, except not 2 but 12.” I could remember that, I decided.

A man next to me had just opened his locker, and he was delirious with relief. We exchanged recollections of all the times we’d had to go to the office to ask for our combinations in the past in other schools. Who knew it was as easy as just listening for things to “click”?

The Locker Combination Dream is Resolved. Or is It?

Quickly, something else occurred to me. If all I had to do was listen for the clicks, then anyone else could come along and do the same. Anyone, if they listened closely, could open my locker and steal its contents. As I thought this, I noticed a woman over my left shoulder. She was clearly watching for me to write down my combination so she could copy it.

“It won’t work for her,” I heard. “The combination is for you alone.”

Confident, I smiled at the woman, and went about gathering the books and materials I would need for class. But now a few people were gathering around me asking me to help them open their lockers. I wasn’t sure how I could help them. They’d just have to do the same thing I did, I figured. I didn’t want to disappoint them, but I didn’t know how to explain this.

And that, this time, is when I woke up.

I do like to analyze dreams, but in this case, I’m not going to try to figure out that last part just yet.  The rest just makes me smile. At least now I can open my own locker.

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