Giving Up Control and Letting Life Happen

This morning, I went to an early yoga class. I thought about skipping the class since I didn’t sleep well, but I managed to get myself up and ready anyway. At 7:40 am, tired not only from lack of sleep but because of lingering sadness over the issue that had kept me awake, I pushed myself out the door.

The issue that stole my slumber is one I’ve been struggling with for a while now. I don’t give up on things easily, but in this case, I’ve begun to feel like it really is time to stop trying. Some things are too draining and too difficult, and it serves us better to just let them go. At least that’s what my “yoga brain” was telling me as I headed to class feeling resigned to the fact that it was time to stop trying to solve the problem on my mind.

Giving up Control

Yoga has a way of calling us to the mat for very specific reasons. Of course, this doesn’t happen every time, but it’s up to us to notice when it does. Today was one of those days. The teacher began, as she usually does, by sharing a reading. This one was about letting go of control. “So often we feel like we need to be in control of everything in our lives,” she began.

I smiled, because this was right in line with the conversation I’d had with myself earlier. I’d set (again) my intention to stop trying to make something happen, because I knew there was no hope. I was just going sit (really, hide) and let whatever was going to happen (or not happen) unfold.

“Can you relate to this?” the teacher asked me. She’d noticed my smile.

“I just had this conversation with myself this morning,” I replied.

At least I’d thought I did.

My teacher continued to read a passage about things that challenge us in life and how we often want to put ourselves right into them and take control and direct the outcome. We just want to say, “Enough! I don’t like the way this is going.”

In my case, the control I thought about taking was going to look more like giving up. I would stop struggling with something that wasn’t going the way I needed it to go.

“But sometimes things are hard because they are meant to teach us something,” was the message my teacher was reading this morning.

It surprised me, because I thought the “control issue” reading would be more about walking away from things that are too hard to control instead of trying to control them.

When the reading suggested things are supposed to be hard sometimes, I was really annoyed! This wasn’t the message I wanted. I didn’t want to be told to keep enduring something that felt way too difficult really to deal with.

So I did what any good yogi would do. I bit my proverbial tongue (the one that wanted rebut this crazy thing I was hearing) and listened to the rest of the passage. If there’s any truth to the idea that things come to us when we need to hear them, this was one example.

Staying in the Storm

It’s tough to think there are some things in our lives that may always be difficult and that the difficulty is meant to be because without those challenges, we won’t grow in important ways.

I don’t know if I’ll eventually come back to my conviction that it’s time to give up on this one thing, but for now, I’m going to try again, maybe just this one time more, and maybe many more times.

I’ll try again, because I was reminded this morning that accepting difficult things without trying to control them is a powerful way to awaken. It’s another opportunity to flex a spiritual muscle. And we need all those muscles to be strong to stay on the path to enlightenment.

When is Anger Helpful?

When I was in graduate school studying psychology, I learned that depression is anger turned inward. That seems right to me. So does that mean the way out of depression is to get angry? Yes.

anger

And no.

Anger is an important reaction to being mistreated or to seeing others mistreated. (I’m angered by the way people abuse animals, for example.)

But if I want to change the mistreatment, I need to do more than get angry. Sure I can rant and rave or complain about the injustices of factory farming, but I’ve noticed when I do that, the only people willing to listen to me are the ones who already agree with me! And even they will recognize at some point (usually quickly) I need to stop being angry and start doing something about the source of my anger. That is, if there actually is something that I can do about it.

As much I hate to admit it, I do not have control over everything. And being angry over things I can’t control only hurts me.

Serenity Prayer
Serenity Prayer

So in the particular case of animal abuse, my action is to not eat these beings and to speak about why I don’t when I can.

And since, like I said, most people don’t listen unless they already agree with me, I do what I can and accept what I can’t do (and pray for the wisdom to know the difference).

Constructive Anger

It’s natural to get angry when we experience mistreatment or disappointment, though how often and to what extent we feel anger varies. Some of us get extremely angry. Often. About many things. Others experience and express the emotion more moderately.

Chronic express of anger can be unhealthy and self-destructive. Not only does it cause physical reactions like rapid heartbeat, constriction of blood vessels and the release of hormones that can ruin our health over time, but we’re not likely to get what we want while immersed in anger. Why? First, it’s very difficult to make clear-headed decisions while we’re angry, and second, most people are put off by chronically angry people, so we won’t get the support that we need either.

Sure, this is easy for me to say. I’m more of the internalizing type, and I don’t express anger easily. And I know my way of dealing with anger has its own benefits and challenges.

Why are you angry?

Let’s say you’re angry because you didn’t win the lottery. Other people win the lottery, so why shouldn’t you? It’s not fair.

Is this kind of anger okay? Sure; why not? Is it useful? Probably not, unless it’s the only thing that motivates you to keep buying lottery tickets, and then you finally do win the lottery. (You’ll probably have a better experience in the meantime if you can keep buying those tickets with a clear and level head.)

Unfortunately, no amount of anger will cause you to pick a winning lottery ticket. Does this mean you should believe some higher force in the universe decides who gets to win the lottery and who doesn’t? I don’t think so. None of us fully understands how or why some people have great success and attract what they want and other people don’t.

Now before all of The Secret and Law of Attraction people jump all over this with that mantra that kind of blames the unfortunate for their own problems, let’s all stop for a moment and come a little bit back to the center.

If you have what you want, it’s probably because you have worked for it and you have believed in your ability to achieve or attract it, and you have been lucky.

I’m sorry if that rattles any feathers, but it’s the truth. It’s just plain wrong to suggest that some folks come up short on their dreams, however big or small those dreams, because they’re not trying hard enough. There is a thing called luck, and like control, it’s not always available when we’d like it or when we need.

It’s not all in your mind. But some of it is.

If you do enough soul-searching, you may find the “law of attraction” philosophies are largely based on fear of that we don’t all have as much control over all our circumstances as we’d like to have.

No, I am not a fatalist.  I do believe we have control over many things, possibly more things than we’re willing or able to admit. And it’s easy to get so lost in our negative emotions that we sabotage any chance we have for happiness or success of any kind.

I do believe that attitude plays a role (in fact, a huge role) in what we attract into our lives. But attitude alone won’t bring about positive change any more than anger alone will.

What is your anger telling you do to?

You can be angry as hell or perfectly aligned with the universe (in other words, on either end of the spectrum), but it won’t do you any good unless you know what you want and how to get it. Even so, I don’t believe everyone who is successful defined what they wanted and went for it. Sometimes people get lucky and are put in the path of things that are not hard to accept and be happy about!

Defining what you want and going for it is always a good idea, but getting attached to success (and either angry or down on yourself when things don’t work out) won’t help for more than fifteen minutes. Okay, take a whole day if you need to. Then take a deep breath and try again. And recognize that whether you fall again or not, you deserve to be happy.

It’s just too darned hard to be happy while you’re angry!

Using Essential Oils as Herbal Remedies: What I Learned from ACHS

I’ve been interested in therapeutic uses of essential oils for a while, so I was happy to have the opportunity to sign up for a free webinar on the topic. Dorene Peterson, a trained naturopath from New Zealand and current president of the American College of Healthcare Sciences (ACHS), led the event.

I discovered ACHS  recently while searching for places to learn about essential oils. The school in Oregon and offers accredited training in herbal medicine, holistic nutrition, aromatherapy, and other wellness modalities.

The webinar was titled “Harnessing the Herbal Powers of Essential Oils.” At first, I wasn’t sure about the phrase “herbal powers” in relation to oils. I’ve always thought of herbs as stems and leaves of plants. But essential oils are also derived from plants, and they have therapeutic properties like other plant constituents.

The therapeutic herbal properties of essential oils

I was happy to learn there are many studies to back up claims about the therapeutic uses of essential oils. Of course, there’s also a lot of anecdotal evidence. I’ve personally experienced a number of therapeutic benefits from using essential oils; ylang ylang, lime, lemongrass, frankincense, and lavender are among my favorites.

Lavender, I was not surprised to learn, is the most popular essential oil by far. If you’ve used essential oils for any purpose, you’ve probably had some experience with lavender. I’ve used it as a sleep remedy, to de-stress, and even to help reduce swelling.

Peterson went on to discuss four of the most popular oils. In addition to lavender, we learned about peppermint, frankincense, and eucalyptus. Here’s a rundown on the uses of each:

Lavender (Lavendula angustifolia)

• reduces pain
• reduces anxiety
• improves sleep/reduces insomnia
• antimicrobial
• antibacterial
• antifungal

Peppermint (Mentha piperita)

• anti-carcinogenic
• helps with nausea
• reduces mental fatigue (uplifting)
• antibacterial
• antifungal

Frankincense (Boswellia carterii)

• anti-inflammatory (great for arthritis and IBS, among other conditions)
• helps enhance memory

Eucalyptus (globulus & E. smithii)

• antimicrobial
• antibacterial
• enhances absorption and penetration of topical remedies

Choosing essential oils for their herbal properties

Peterson pointed out there are a lot of essential oils on the market, but for an oil to be therapeutically effective, it must meet certain quality standards.

Some oils have interesting labels like “therapeutic grade” and “all natural,” but, according to Peterson, these labels are mostly marketing tools. The terms themselves are not regulated. That doesn’t mean the products that use these labels are ineffective; it just means the labels themselves don’t distinguish one product from another in any meaningful way.

So, I asked, what should you look for when choosing an essential oil for therapeutic use? As it turns out, there’s no simple answer to that question. The only way to ensure the quality of an essential oil is to research the product and make a decision about its quality after gathering as much information as possible.

Here are some tips recommended by ACHS:

1. Find out if the oil was tested for purity (and what the results were).

Gas chromatography and mass spectrometry are the methods used to test essential oils for purity. While they are somewhat expensive tests, they provide essential (no pun intended) evidence that an oil is pure (or not).

You can contact a manufacturer or distributor and ask about gas chromatography and mass spectrometry. Some companies provide this information on their website or as part of their marketing materials.

2. Look for the product’s Latin name and know what it means.

You don’t have to be fluent in Latin to know which oils are therapeutically useful, but it’s important to understand that many oils have more than one variety, and the one you choose may make a significant difference in the oil’s effectiveness.

For example, many lavender products are made with lavandin (Lavenula intermedia), which, according to ACHS, is not as effective as true lavender (Lavendula agustifolia).

When you read or hear about a study about an essential oil’s effectiveness in treating a certain condition, make sure you know which variety of the oil was used in the study.

3. Remember that most of the time, you get what you pay for.

We all love to save money, and it’s certainly possible to purchase good quality essential oils without emptying your wallet, but don’t expect to buy safe and effective products at bargain basement prices.

Remember quality oils must be tested; the process costs money. In addition, pure oils cost more than oils with additives and extenders. Spending a bit more for products that work can be a wise investment. In the long run, it will be a lot less expensive than prescription drugs and visits to a doctor.

The bottom line is that most inexpensive essential oils have little use beyond the pleasant fragrance they may provide, so if you’re interested in health benefits, you’ll probably need to invest a bit more money.

But before you choose the most expensive product on the market, do some research; compare prices and ask for recommendations from health care providers who have experience with these products, and perhaps be wary of any company that claims to have the only oils worth buying.

4. Find a supplier or practitioner you trust.

Once you find a supplier that meets the criteria for quality, you can return to that source for all your essential oil needs. Many companies have rewards programs or offer free products and other incentives to regular customers, which can be a benefit of having a go-to company.

Just be sure to choose a company based on the quality of its products, not the cleverness of its marketing campaign. If you’re not sure you can do this on your own, ask someone trained in aromatherapy or contact an aromatherapy school for recommendations.

Essential oils are a true gift of nature, and there are many ways to incorporate them into your healthy, happy life. They can be used to calm the mind, help you sleep, heal the body, sanitize your home, and even to improve the health of your pets!

But don’t take my word for it. First, spend some time learning for yourself. Find out as much as possible about the science behind essential oils from experienced people who know the facts so you can be sure you’re choosing products carefully and using them safely.

Self Love, Selflessness and Selfishness

The other day, a friend and I were kicking around the topic of self-love, a concept, we soon were reminded, That’s not simple. Most of us know we need to love ourselves and we could probably be a lot better at it.

So what is self-love? The definition is not so clear, perhaps because love is not easy to define.

Self love: Whose world is it anyway?

Along with the topic of self-love, my friend and I considered the idea of worldview. He pointed out that each person has a unique perspective, or worldview, that revolves around the person who holds that view. And so, he concluded, each person exists for himself. This was his take on the familiar idea of “looking out for number one.”

I didn’t agree that we all exist for ourselves. We do need to care for ourselves, but I don’t think we exist only for ourselves. We need to care about others, and not just because it’s a nice idea that sounds right, but because our own survival depends on our connection to those around us.

As is often the case when we let our initial reactions get in the way of true communication, I realized that, while I took issue with my friend’s statement about worldview, it was just one or two words before I could agree.

He seemed to be saying each person’s worldview revolves around that person and that the world as he or she knows it exists only in the mind of the observer. In other words, each person operates from a particular worldview, and the only world we can know is the one we ourselves observe.

But what if we learn to step back and widen our view, or at least acknowledge we are limited by our own view of things? We don’t each have our own world. We just have our own view of it. We are just a small part of the one world (or universe, if you prefer).

Love yourself

We do need to love ourselves in order to survive, and again, not just because it sounds nice and it’s the right thing to do. Think about how quickly you would be destroyed if you didn’t protect yourself from danger? Often, danger is concrete and obvious : the saber-toothed tiger, a madman with a gun, a hurricane, hunger, etc.

But what about being taken advantage of, put down, undervalued, criticized, or ignored? Those things are dangerous when they damage our self-esteem and threaten our ability to love ourselves. Subjected to such damage over time, we slowly die.

At first we may only suffer emotionally, but emotional damage often leads to physical illness. So it’s not hard to argue that we need to love and care for ourselves, and we need to do that before we can care for or love anyone else.

But do we also need to care for or love anyone else? I’m sure different people have different ideas about this, but I believe we cannot love ourselves without loving others as well. Because once we truly love ourselves, we recognize that we are part of a whole human experience. Once we truly love ourselves, we realize that we are love, and love cannot be contained.

Self love includes others

Many people put the needs of others ahead of their own, thinking this is the right thing to do. Selflessness is an admired quality, but not if it undervalues the person caring for others. In fact, true selflessness may be very damaging and dangerous.

I’m not talking about selfless acts, because there are times when it’s good, loving and noble, to put our own needs aside for a moment, or an afternoon, or a weekend, and let someone else come first. What is damaging is considering our own needs to always be secondary to the needs of others.

A healthy person is not selfless. He or she receives something in return for attending to the needs of others, and that’s how it should be. True selflessness would amount, in short, to death. So while we cannot love ourselves without loving others as well, and we also cannot love others until we love ourselves, we also cannot love only others or only ourselves.

There’s one world, and we’re ALL a part of it

Like it or not, we humans are interdependent. We need each other, but we need to choose our relationships wisely so we’re not exhausted or used up.

A lot of this choosing depends on our own personalities. Some people are more easily drained and need fewer relationships, while others thrive on interaction with others and need as much of it as possible. Neither is better than the other.

What we’re taught about ourselves and about caring for others also comes into play. Our personal histories influence how easily we’re able to make wise choices about the people we let into our lives.

In the end, each of us is the expert on our own needs, as well as our own ability and willingness to offer ourselves to others in a healthy way. Our bodies, our mind, and our spirits tell us when we’re doing a good job with ourselves and with others.

We also know when we have work to do on one end of the spectrum or the other. Like many things, it’s a question of balance, and the scales usually tip back and forth as we travel through our lives.

Spring: When Everything Old Can Become New

Spring is finally here! And that means it’s time for new beginnings. I’m excited because I’m ready for something new. It’s been an especially difficult winter on the east coast and for me personally, due not only to all the cold weather and snowstorms, but also some of those pesky storms of life.

The universe does have a way of nudging us toward a place we need to be, and that’s probably why I forced myself out of the house at the last minute to get to a yoga class today despite my inner protests (I have all this work to do; I’m tired; I can practice at home).

The teacher’s theme was, not surprisingly, spring-related. She spoke of doors and opening our hearts to new things; she asked us how we intended to greet the spring. Well, maybe that’s not exactly what she said, but you get the point.

Earlier, I’d been wondering why I wasn’t being strongly drawn to practice at any particular studio lately. I’ve been more or less bouncing from place to place for the last four or five years. Maybe the problem (if it’s even a problem) isn’t so much the studios out there as the plateau that I’ve reached within myself. I seem to be hearing (and saying and doing) the same thing over and over no matter where I go, and none of it is resonating the way it used to.

So it seemed this would be a good time for a new message, or so I was thinking as I unrolled my mat on this spring morning. I don’t mean an “out with the old, in with the new” kind of message. I mean I need to deepen my practice (my yoga practice, my spiritual practice, and my entire practice of life). Perhaps this has to do with the fact that I recently reached a milestone age. And I would like very much to be new.

Beginner’s Mind Makes Old Things New

So there I was in class waiting for something new. But there was really nothing new. Instead, the teacher invited us to experience the poses as if we’ve never done them before!

That was a powerful approach because this was in no way a beginner’s class. But then again, maybe it was. Maybe they all are (or could be). We do a lot of things in life so much by habit that it can become difficult to truly experience them anymore. And what happens? Sometimes, we get bored. And we start complaining about how we want to do something different or experience something new.

But what if we just started to think of the things we’re already doing in a different way?

This is especially challenging, I think, in our relationships. My husband reminds me of this all the time. We get so used to each other’s habits and ways of interacting that we think we can anticipate everything the other is going to say or do. Often, we can. But not always. And it’s usually when we can’t that we’ve missed something important.

So this little insight in yoga class was not exactly what I expected as an approach to this new season of spring. It’s better. Because the key to renewal may be simpler than we think. It may be that we don’t need to do anything new, just that we need to do old things in new ways.

So when you find yourself blaming your circumstances or routine for the lack of excitement in your life, try taking a deep breath and embracing whatever you’re doing right now. Do it as if you’ve never done it before. You may be surprised at how new old things can become!

The True Story of Nippy

Matthew shuffled happily into the kitchen. He was hungry and so was Nippy. They had been in the yard searching for worms. It had rained last night, and there were lots of worms wriggling in the grass. Matthew didn’t touch the worms. He wanted to, but he thought it was better just to watch them.

“What would you like for lunch?” Mother asked.

“Grilled cheese and an apple,” Matthew chirped. “It’s Nippy’s favorite.”

Mom smiled. Nippy was Matthew’s hamster. Mom didn’t think Nippy was real.

After lunch, Matthew told Mom that Nippy wanted chocolate pudding.

Mom placed a bowl of pudding on the table. “You can share this with Nippy,” she said.

When Matthew’s brother Timmy came home from school, Matthew and Nippy were coloring.

“Can I color a page?” Timmy asked.

“When Nippy is done,” said Matthew.

Timmy made a funny face. “Nippy can’t color. Nippy isn’t real,” he said.

Matthew didn’t answer.

When Dad came home from work, it was time for dinner.

“Nippy isn’t hungry,” said Matthew.

“He keeps talking about that hamster,” Timmy said. “Tell him to stop. Nippy isn’t real.”

Matthew looked sad.

Dad said, “Don’t worry about Nippy.”

After dinner, Matthew went to his room. He wanted to play with Nippy. But Nippy wasn’t there.

“I think Nippy ran away,” Matthew said to Mom.

Timmy made another funny face. “How can Nippy run away? Nippy isn’t real.”

When morning came, everyone was busy getting ready for the day. Matthew didn’t want to get up. Then Dad came to the door. He looked surprised.

“Nippy is on the phone,” Dad told Matthew.

Matthew rubbed his eyes. He made a funny face.

“How can Nippy be on the phone?” Matthew asked.

Timmy heard Dad and came into the room too. He was smiling at Dad and Matthew. “You better get the phone,” he told Matthew. “Nippy will want to play with you today.”

Matthew laughed. “Okay,” he said. “I’ll talk to Nippy.”

When he got to the phone, there was nobody there. Matthew made another funny face.

“Maybe he got tired of waiting,” Timmy said.

Dad went to work, and Timmy went to school. Mom and Matthew went out to play in the yard.

“The grass is dry now,” Mom said.

Matthew stood still for a short time. Then he laughed and made a funny face. He pointed to the swing set. “I’m going on the swings with Nippy,” he said.

Mom smiled as she watched Matthew run to play with Nippy. It didn’t matter to her that she couldn’t see Nippy. She was happy that Matthew had Nippy to play with.

It’s Okay to Say “God”

I’ve been a spiritual seeker for decades. I grew up in a religious (Catholic) family. I went to church every Sunday until I was in college. Soon after I graduated, I followed the path of many twenty-somethings disillusioned with religion. It wasn’t that I saw no value in the religion I grew up with; it was that I needed to go deeper.

God is an Experience

Around the time I took my first yoga class, I spent some time exploring Christian mysticism. I practiced centering prayer (similar to Eastern meditation) and read about the lives of Thomas Merton, St. John of the Cross, and other mystics. I was fascinated with “The Cloud of Unknowing” and a little booklet someone gave me called “The Hound of Heaven.”

The simple idea behind the mystic’s journey is God is within us and all around us. God will call us in subtle and not so subtle ways. And if we really want to understand our connection to God, we have to go within ourselves to experience it.

This inner knowing was a bit different from the traditions, rules, and practices I’d known as religion until then. To mystics, God is more of an experience than a being you can figure out by thinking, reading, and following a set of rules.

Buddha

As I continued to practice yoga and learn more about Eastern traditions, my understanding of spirituality and what it means to be a spiritual being expanded. I began to learn about Hinduism, then Buddhism, Taosim and other Eastern traditions.

I’m open to anything that brings me a genuine experience of “something greater than myself” (something which I believe I am a part of). I have less need to define it or analyze it or intellectualize it. I just try to experience it and be it.

But I’ve noticed something interesting as I’ve come to know many other spiritual seekers on a journey similar to mine. It seems the word “God” has become taboo in some circles. Some people with Christian roots seem eager to throw the baby (Jesus) out with the bath water.

If you’re a Christian (and even if you’re not), you probably understand Jesus as someone who came to show people the way to God. The path to God is the reason for any religion. Of course, there’s a difference between Christianity and other religions, but it’s not religion itself that is my point. It’s what the path of religion is leading you to.

As human beings, we need to start with a set of rules that point us in the right direction toward anything we want to understand. And in trying to understand spiritual matters, various groups have established different religions. Religion is important. It starts us on a path to God.

Rules, Rituals and Being Human

I hear a lot of people complain about Christianity because it supposedly encourages us to see ourselves as sinners. The problem may be a too-harsh definition of sin or they idea that sin makes us bad people.

Sin is whatever keeps us from connection with God.

It’s a fact of human life that we’re not always perfectly focused on our spiritual goals. But if enlightenment is important to us, we need a way to stay on the journey.

Is it really too many rules and rituals that cause people to cringe when they see a crucifix? Maybe, like the rules you learned for solving arithmetic equations or driving your car, you don’t have to be so rigid about them once you’ve understand what your goal is in the first place.

In other words, it’s the spirit of the law, not the law itself that matters. If you’re getting the answer, the steps you take may not be as important as you were led to believe when you first encountered the question. Just be honest about what’s happening. Are you really getting the answer, or is it just easier not to do your homework?

God will find you

I had a conversation about this recently, and my companion suggested that another reason people become disillusioned with Christianity is that they don’t like the idea of being eternally accountable to an invisible God.

So, here’s the thing. If there is an invisible God who is watching and taking note of our sins, we don’t have a choice in the matter. But that’s not something to worry about. There are probably eternal consequences to any choices we make in life. And eternity starts now. It’s not some final payment (or penalty) that will happen in the future.

The point I’m hoping to make is if you are truly honest about your spiritual life and your reasons for choosing your form of spiritual practice, you will find your way back to your source. God by any other name is still God.

Are Your Supplements Safe and Effective? Practical Tips For Your Health and Your Wallet

When I first became interested in complementary and alternative medicine, the general belief was the Food and Drug Administration did not care much about supplements. It’s true that the government does little to regulate the use of dietary supplements. The reason for this is dietary supplements are classified as foods, not drugs.

I learned very little about supplements in my college classes when I studied nutrition a few decades ago, and I suppose there was a good reason for that. It was not until 1994 that Congress decided on a definition of dietary supplement with a law known as the Dietary Supplement Health and Education Act (DSHEA).

Dietary supplements are products that contain ingredients such as vitamins, minerals, herbs, botanicals, and amino acids. They may also contain enzymes, organ tissue, glandulars, and metabolites. They come in tablets, softgels, liquids, and powders. You probably used one or more at some point.

Not Drugs or Foods

It’s important to note that DSHEA puts dietary supplements in a special category. They are not considered drugs, but they are not conventional foods either. They do fall under the umbrella of foods, but they must be specifically labeled as dietary supplements.

What’s new?

DSHEA also distinguishes between a “dietary ingredient” and a “new dietary ingredient.” This is important because the only time a manufacturer needs to inform the FDA about a new product is when the product contains a “new” dietary ingredient, that is, any ingredient that was not already being sold as a dietary supplement before October 15, 1994.

In other words, a company that makes vitamin C tablets does not need to get approval from the FDA before it makes this product. Since there’s no definitive list of “old” dietary supplements, it’s up to the manufacturer to determine whether an ingredient is new. (To use an extreme example, if you decided to market shredded paper as a dietary supplement, you’d have to clear it with the FDA first.)

Does the FDA regulate dietary supplements?

As long as there are no “new dietary ingredients” in a supplement, manufacturers do not need approval from the FDA to make and sell a product. However, firms do have to register with the FDA before they can legally manufacture and market dietary supplements.

For the most part, it’s up to the company that makes a supplement to do the necessary research to ensure that a product is safe and effective. Equally important is the responsibility of individual consumers to be aware of the ingredients in the products they are using and to learn as much as possible about the safety and efficacy of these ingredients.

Good practices

In 2007, the FDA published guidelines for companies to use when creating dietary supplements. According to the FDA website, “These regulations focus on practices that ensure the identity, purity, quality, strength and composition of dietary supplements.”

So if you want to know how reliable and safe a product is, find out if the company follows Current Good Manufacturing Practices (sometimes abbreviated CGMP or GMP) as dictated by the FDA.

How must supplements be labeled?

The FDA requires the following information to appear on all dietary supplement labels:

  • the name of the supplement, which must include a statement that it is a supplement
  • the name and address of the manufacturer, packer or  distributor
  • the net contents of the product
  • a “Supplement Facts” nutrition label that lists all ingredients in the product

All ingredients in the product must be listed either on the “Supplement Facts” panel or below the panel under the heading “other ingredients.”

Who ensures the safety of dietary supplements?

US law states that manufacturers are responsible for determining the safety of their products. Since supplement companies do not need approval from the FDA to sell most products, it’s up to you to decide whether or not you trust a particular brand and product. (Before you decide whether or not this is a good thing, consider that the FDA does approve prescription drugs, and some would say it’s not a stretch to say the drugs it approves are not always safe.)

So the bottom line is it’s up to you to find out what you’re taking, whether it’s safe, and whether it’s effective for the reason that you’re taking it. You should also be aware that while the FDA does not approve supplements, it can ban the sale of supplements shown to be unsafe.

Supplement manufacturers are required to submit reports of adverse side effects to the FDA, but it’s much more likely that health care providers and you, the consumer, will be the ones responsible for alerting the government when there is a problem with a product. You can do this by filing a report with FDA yourself.

How to choose supplements

Before you get the idea that I’m discouraging the use of supplements or that I think the FDA always has everyone’s interests in mind, let me say neither of these is necessarily the case.

I do think many supplements have tremendous value. And there are many more that are useless and a waste of money. Hopefully, there are not too many that are downright dangerous.

Supplements which have been on the market for a long time are probably safe (though this doesn’t mean they’re effective). Newer supplements may not have been around long enough to determine whether or not they’re safe. However, even if you’re buying something as common as calcium, it’s still a good idea to do some research and choose wisely. The FDA does have some commonsense tips on this:

  • Consider your overall diet before deciding that you need a supplement.
  • Talk to your doctor and get his or her input on the need, safety and efficacy of a supplement you want to use.
  • Find out if the supplement you are considering has any interactions with any prescription or over-the-counter medications you are taking.
  • Carefully evaluate the source of information you find on the web or in other places, and look for actual research studies that support any claim that a supplement manufacturer makes.
  • Think twice before accepting a claim that sounds too good to be true.
  • Don’t assume that “natural” necessarily means “safe.”
  • Contact the manufacturer for more information about a product if you have any remaining doubts about using it.

It’s up to you

When it comes to dietary supplements and your health, it’s up to you to decide what’s good for you and what’s not. That can mean finding someone you trust who has done the necessary research for you or taking the time to do it yourself. In most cases, it will probably mean a combination of both.

The Simple Truth About Vegetarian Nutrition

When it comes to ideas about vegetarian diets, people seem to fall into one of two camps. One group believes a vegetarian diet is the healthiest diet on the planet. The other warns vegetarians about all the important nutrients they’re missing. (I was once warned I was not getting enough vitamins in my diet because I don’t eat meat.)

A vegetarian diet, like any other diet, can be balanced or unbalanced. There are nutrients that vegetarians need to pay extra attention to because they are not easily to obtain from plant-based foods.

Vegans (those who don’t eat animal products of any kind), not vegetarians who eat dairy and eggs, are more likely to be at risk for nutrient deficiencies.

The best things in life are not easy, so let’s take a closer look at some potential pitfalls to avoid when considering vegetarian nutrition.

Calcium

Most people think of dairy products as the best sources of calcium, but there are plenty of plant-based sources of calcium for vegans. Dark leafy greens (including broccoli), tofu that is processed with calcium sulfate, and other fortified vegan foods, such as soy milk, are examples. There is also calcium in blackstrap molasses and almonds.

One word of caution, though, if you rely on greens for calcium: a compound known as oxalic acid in some veggies can interfere with calcium absorption. Spinach, rhubarb, and chard contain a lot of oxalic acid, so it may be better to rely on greens like broccoli and collards for calcium instead.

Iron

Iron is perhaps the mineral most associated with meat. But vegans can find good sources of iron in beans and dark leafy greens. (Are you getting the idea that those dark leafy greens are awesome?)

There are two types of iron, heme and non-heme. Non-heme iron is the iron we get from plant sources, and while it’s not absorbed as easily as heme iron, iron deficiency anemia is no more common in vegans than it is in carnivores.

One trick is to include foods rich in vitamin C with your beans and greens, because vitamin C helps the body absorb iron. There are even some foods that are rich in both iron and vitamin C, such as broccoli and bok choy. Or try some vitamin-C-rich tomato sauce with your beans. (Here’s a great recipe.)

Protein 

Most meat-eaters consume a lot more protein than they need. Maybe this is why they’re so concerned that vegetarians don’t get enough. Don’t get me wrong; protein is important. If you’re a vegan, you’ll need to be sure to combine foods correctly because few plant foods are complete sources of protein (“complete” proteins contain all of the essential amino acids).

Soy and quinoa are among the few complete plant-based proteins, but there are other options as well. Combine rice with beans or nut butters with whole grain bread and you’ll have all the essential amino acids in one place. For most vegans, eating a variety of nuts, seeds and legumes is sufficient for meeting protein needs.

So if you’re concerned that you don’t know enough about vegetarian nutrition to be healthy, start here. Then continue to read and learn more. You’ll probably come to a simple conclusion before long; if planned well, the benefits of vegetarian nutrition outweigh those other kinds of diets!

(Don’t) Worry; Be Happy

You may remember the song, “Don’t Worry; Be Happy.” It’s a catchy tune and a fine message, usually. If you practice yoga, you have probably practiced being in the moment, which usually suggests a state of blissful trust in the universe. In other words, you’re without worry.

Sometimes worry is healthy

In the book “Aging as a Spiritual Practice,” author and Buddhist priest Lew Richmond writes about “healthy” worry. He describes the Buddhist concept of the “middle way,” comparing it to a lute string. In order to produce the best sound, a lute string must be in balance, that is, not too loose and not too tight.

My mom (who gave me the book to read) pointed this out once when we were discussing retirement. Realizing I had some concerns about having enough to live on in retirement, she said, “They say live in the moment, but how can you do that?”

Since I don’t spend a lot of time worrying about the future, I thought I knew the answer. “You have to be aware of the future and make plans for the future, but it’s probably not healthy to live in the future,” I suggested. It sounded right, at least from a yogi’s point of view.

The future depends on you

I guess the point is if you go through life in denial and truly live only in the moment, you will eventually encounter unpleasant moments. The unfortunate reality of having to save for retirement is one example.

I’ve encountered several people who have sworn to me the “universe” would provide for them, that things would happen “in time.” And I wasn’t too surprised to find out years later that they’d made no real progress toward their goals (if they had any goals to begin with).

On the other hand, if we spend our lives obsessing about numbers (living in the future) or stressed out over how to be sure our lives go according to plan, we’ll likely be miserable for many more moments than if we go through life with trust and awareness of how the present unfolds into the future.

And to be fair, some of those people who trusted the universe either got lucky or truly did have the universe on their side.

Our past does not disappear

Similarly, there’s no real way to be in the present if we have no connection to the past. Our past contributes to what is going on in our lives at this moment. Again, living in the past (brooding, regretting or wishing to return to “glory days”) is not useful. But recalling pleasant memories or appreciating the value of lessons we learned in childhood enriches each present moment, doesn’t it?

Learning to live in the present moment is (along with learning how to breathe) one of the best gifts I’ve received from my yoga practice. I could spend a lot of time feeling sad about things I’ve lost or fearing what will happen in the future, but thankfully, I don’t, at least not too often.

Keeping the Lute Strings in Balance

I try to spend just enough time in the past or future to keep my lute string balanced so I can make the best possible music. When I find myself tightening the string too much, I trust that I can take a step back and stop worrying, at least for a moment.

And when I realize I do need to work toward a goal for the future, I tighten that string just a bit more, but not so much that I forget to appreciate the gift of living in this beautiful moment and trusting I’ll make (mostly) the right choices as the future unfolds.

The past, present and future cannot really be separated. But maybe this is just a matter of perspective. No one can be in exactly the right place at all times; we need to learn how to make adjustments, to loosen and tighten that lute string as we move through a series of present moment. That’s the beautiful practice of the “middle way.”

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Maria is a health and wellness writer and certified yoga instructor with a background in education, psychology, and nutrition. She has written hundreds of pages of content for clients in health-related fields, particularly those specializing in yoga, natural medicine, nutrition, psychology, and spiritual health and healing. She is also the author of "Yoga Circles, a Guide for Creating Community of the Mat." In addition to writing, Maria has worked as a nutritionist, teacher, and technical/nonfiction editor. To learn more about her writing, visit www.wellbeingwriter.net.